How to Break Your Toxic Relationship Cycle

Do your romantic relationships keep you feeling exhausted and stressed out? Are you being mistreated in your relationship but decide to stay anyway? Do you date the same type of unhealthy person every time? If you answered yes to these questions, you may be stuck in a toxic relationship cycle. So how do you get out of an unhealthy relationship? Before you work on this question, keep in mind these two thoughts. First, acknowledge that you are making a choice to stay. Maybe you said yes to being in this relationship even when you saw the red flags or you stayed when you wanted to leave. There is no judgment or blame. This is just an acknowledgement. Second, look at how you attracted this type of person in the first place. There may be something about the energy you are putting out into the world that continuously brings back the […]

How to Love Survivors of Childhood Narcissistic Abuse

As my partner stood talking at the doorway of the bedroom, all I could do is shut down and disappear into the world of my childhood. Her voice represented the yelling of my narcissistic mother screaming at me. Tears trickled down my face as I travelled back in time to the sounds of my painful childhood. “Retreat!” constantly flashed in my mind whenever I heard my partner raise her voice. The louder her voice got, the more I withdrew into the past with my abusive mother. For more than 25 years, my mother filled my childhood and adulthood with criticisms and mockery. I never seemed to be “good enough” for her. Resigned to this notion, I broke free of her control in my 30’s and have been on the road to recovery ever since. The healing process varies in structure and length for everyone. Encouraged by my partner, I allowed […]